Something Taboo.

Entri kali ini mungkin tersangat "berat" pada sesetengah pihak yang membacanya. This entri more to confession. I will discuss something that is taboo for us Malaysians especially Malays. "Sex Education among kids"


Hidup aku banyak dipengaruhi dengan Oprah. Aku suka slot slot dan topik topik yang dibincangkan. No wonderlah dia orang yang paling dipercayai di dunia ini.

Tahun 2005/2006,
Masa ini aku masih di New Zealand, aku menonton Oprah. Topik yang di bincangkan was Sexual Abuse or Molestation. Seperti biasa ada tetamu jemputan, mereka yang sexually abused when they were kids. Pity them. Mereka mereka ini somehow mempunyai identiti yang berbeza dalam diri mereka disebabkan penderaan seksual di zaman kanak kanak. Salah seorang daripada mereka mempunyai 72 watak atau identiti berbeza. Paling banyak. Anaknya sendiri tidak pernah berjumpa "ibunya" yang sebenar. Kasihan kan?

Penderaan seks semasa kanak kanak sebenarnya memberi impak yang sangat kuat dalam kehidupan seseorang. Rasa rendah diri dan hilang kepercayaan kepada orang sekeliling. Penderaan seksual ini selalunya terjadi di kalangan kaum keluarga sendiri; sangat membahaya.

Di malaysia kita sering menekankan Pendidikan Seks di sekolah walaupun takde lah berjaya sangat sbb cikgu pun kadang kadang malu untuk membincangkan perkara ini. Aku tak menyalahkan cikgu sebab aku sendiri cikgu. Somehow kita tidak mengamalkan sikap keterbukaan dalam budaya kita. Seks adalah "taboo". Agak sukar bagi cikgu untuk menerangkan jika pelajar lelaki di belakang tidak mengambil perkara ini sebagai sesuatu yang serius manakala pelajar perempuan malau malu kucing, malu tetapi mahu. Mangsa selalunya perempuan; jika punya kesempatan aku terangkan kepada mereka. Jika diajar di sekolah rendah; bagaikan tidak sesuai pula. Budak budak fahamkah???

Masalah yang timbul sekarang, kebanyakkan mangsa penderaan seks berlaku kepada kanak kanak. Bukan remaja. Agak sukar sebenarnya sebab realiti vs budaya. Kita malu alah kepada budaya kita sendiri. Dan mangsanya kanak kanak yang naif.

Ibu bapa sangat memainkan peranan yang penting; terlalu penting. Kawal pergerakkan anak anda dan JANGAN PERCAYA kepada sesiapa pun!!!

I was sexually abused when i was kid too. I was too naive but somehow when he took advatage on me, i knew something wrong is going on. I was so scared and till now, when i think of it i just wanna scream out loud to his face. I didnt tell anyone coz i was afraid. I was ashamed of myself. If you are thinking i was raped; the answer is no. But if that "touch" affect my life; i dont trust anyone even my own father... I dont want to have any daughter coz i am afraid that there is a possibility for that thing to happen to her too. Imagine those who had worst than me.

Oprah herself is one of the victim. After i watched her show 6 years ago, For the first time i had a confession to my friend that i think i was sexually abused when i was kid. I need to talk. I need to do something. I need to voice up. And i was so relieved... After few years i told my bf. I havent tell my family yet. I am still thinking about that. Because that man is very close to my family; he changed. And this thing happend when he was teenagers. But i dont know... Should i? But one thing i know forsure...if i have a daughter in the future...i wont leave her alone with any man.

People; this thing do exist in our society. Educate your children. Tell them if anyone ever touch their body...scream. Tell you. Kick them. Bite them. Because...once it happened; the scar wont fade away....


Truly,
W Nurayuni Bt W Mohd Arifin.